Penile, vaginal, and clitoral stimulation are the three most commonly talked about types of sexual stimulation, but there’s another type we’re often hesitant to bring up: Anal stimulation! While the idea of sticking something inside of your butt may seem intimidating at first glance, the truth is, it’s actually a quite pleasurable experience if you utilize the correct tools. If you’ve ever been curious about giving your “backdoor” a go but weren’t quite sure how to go about it, then this short introduction to anal sex toys is just what you need! Introduction to Anal Play-
Getting Started with Introduction to Anal Play
First things first: Here’s what you’ll need regardless of what toys you do (or don’t) decide to use.
- A bottle of lubricant
Yes, that’s really all you’ll need to begin! While you can definitely begin your journey by using toys like anal vibrators, most people begin their adventure with a finger or two. Unlike the vagina, your anus doesn’t naturally lubricate itself, which is why using lubrication is so important. Unnecessary friction is sure to put a damper on your first experience (or even put you off from the act entirely!) so you’ll want to pick up a bottle of lubricant to ensure that the process goes as smoothly as possible. All anal toys are compatible with water-based lube (which is why we recommend it to start with!), although some toys may also be compatible with silicone or oil-based lubricants as well. When in doubt, check your user’s manual before using non-water-based lube.
The Different Types of Toys for Introduction to Anal Play
There are multiple types of anal sex toys, but we’re just going to cover the major ones in this article. You’ll find a quick breakdown of each toy type below!
These are arguably the most beginner-friendly butt toys around. Like most adult toys, they come in a variety of shapes, colors, and sizes, but all of them work the same way: You simply stick them inside of your butt! Unlike other toys, butt plugs don’t require any additional effort. Instead, you simply leave them inside of your anus and enjoy the added sensations they provide. Butt plugs can be utilized during masturbation, foreplay, sex, or even daily activities (depending on the design). Anal sex toys will provide you with a “full” feeling, can stimulate the inside wall of your vagina (or the prostate), and offer an easy way to work your way up to penetrative anal sex. A great beginner model is the Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner’s Butt Plug, which has a tapered tip for easier insertion.
These beads are designed to provide pleasure when being inserted and removed from the anus. Like butt plugs, there are many different variations available, but a good choice is for first-timers are the BASICS Anal beads. To use anal beads, you simply need to lube them up, insert them inside of your anus, and then enjoy the sensations as you pull them back out again! Unlike butt plugs, anal beads aren’t specifically intended to stay inside of you the entire sexual encounter (although you certainly can leave them in there during intercourse if you’d like to). While anal beads are great for use with a partner, you can also use them by yourself if you’d like to spice things up on your own!
The vast majority of readers are probably familiar with dildos, so we’ll skip the explanation on how to use them. However, you might be wondering: why would you want to stick a dildo up your butt? Well, there are a couple of reasons, the first being to simulate anal sex. Using a dildo is an easy way to stimulate the thousands of nerve endings in your anus, and can be done by either yourself or a partner. The second reason is targeted internal stimulation. For men, it’s entirely possible to have an orgasm simply from prostate (p-spot) stimulation alone, and—even if you don’t orgasm—the experience is still very pleasurable. For women, using a dildo in the anus can also induce pleasure via the “A-spot” and other parts of the vagina through the anal wall.
As mentioned above, men can enjoy orgasms that they otherwise would have missed out on simply by targeting their prostate, which is exactly what prostate massagers do! Many (although not all) vibrate, which adds to the overall intensity of the inner stimulation. Unlike dildos, prostate massagers are specifically curved to target the prostate and are usually designed to stay in place inside of the anus while being used. Some models like the Mantric Prostate Vibrator also massage the perineum (taint) as well, which stimulates the prostate from the outside.
Anal Sex Toys: A Summary
Unlike “gender-specific” toys such as cock rings, anal sex toys are toys that can be enjoyed by anyone, regardless of how you identify or what anatomy you may have! Everyone has an anus, and while many people have decided to experiment for themselves, butt toys as a whole are still considered “taboo” by society. This is unfortunate because even if you enjoy penile, clitoral, or vaginal stimulation as your main method of reaching an orgasm, adding anal sex toys into the mix can surely help you get there faster. Ultimately, whether or not you decide to use anal sex toys is a personal choice, but we’d highly recommend giving them a chance before deciding to write them off completely. Who knows—you might have the most mind-blowing orgasm ever! And worst comes to worst? You’ll know a bit more about your body, the things you definitely like, and the things you really don’t. Either way, it’s a win-win!